Read The Engagement {part 1 – if I could keep you little}.
My mind was trying to wrap around the fact that my “boy” was turning into a man and had marriage deep in his heart. When he first brought up the subject, I figured I had about a year to prepare my heart and mind for this big step. After all, he doesn’t graduate college until May 2012.
However, my boy wasn’t worried about mom’s time table. He was ready NOW.
One of the next conversations we had was about setting up a date for him and me to go look at rings. I couldn’t believe he asked me to go with him. I can not even put into words how honored I felt to even be asked, much less get to be there for such an important decision on his part.
The engagement is a surprise, so naturally his girl couldn’t go. And the ring was to be a surprise too, so thankfully he wanted a women’s point on view on rings and I got asked.
We ventured out. I think his girl might have wondered what was up when we set out on our “mother/son date.” She was texting the whole time we are out, so we decided to tell her we were going to eat. We surely didn’t want to keep fabricating these lies. (forgive us, Lord!)
Arriving at the jewelry store, it’s hard to describe all the emotions I was feeling — honored, excited, sad, anxious, privileged, and totally in awe of this little boy young man. We lingered at the counter, my son wanted my reaction on a ring he had spotted earlier so I had to turn around. Then I finally heard,
“Mom, you can turn around.”
Oh. My. Word! The brilliance, shine, beauty, and sparkle — all from one ring! It’s as if that ring were highlighted from Above as my son put it in front of me. But I think deep down what was shining more was the love that this symbol represents. I’m still tearing up writing this, excuse me. There are not dictionary words to describe the beauty.
The beauty of my son’s heart.
The beauty of his girl — inside and out.
And the beauty of the ring that will symbolize their undying love.
There is something so special about a wedding ring. Do you remember the thoughts you had when you received yours? What does your ring symbolize to you?
Linking up with Emily at Chatting at the Sky for Tuesdays Unwrapped. This is our last Tuesday and one in which I am so thankful for boys, their girls, love, engagements, and rings.
Oh Alene, this perspective is so awesome thanks for sharing!
I remember February 17, 2007 when Ryan proposed like it was yesterday… I am so thankful that he picked out my ring himself and proposed as a surprise… the old fashioned way in my opinion.
There is just something magical about it all…no matter the ring the way or the location… it's perfect love in it's truest form!
Christina – it wasn't until I saw that ring from a mom's perspective that I got it. I think when I got my own engagement ring I was too caught up in "being in love" and couldn't wait for the "happily ever after."
What a stirring post, loved it. And, brought back so many memories from when our son became engaged. We had our DIL's ring made from my diamonds and that made it so special and she loved it. Oh, these sons and their Moms, a special bond for sure.
Blessings for a wonderful Christmas week!
what a big moment! so happy for your son and the chance you have to share in the blessing of seeing your son in love forever.
Wow! Congratulations. A new daughter. That's precious. A joyful son – even more.
Remembering my ring – He gave it to me in a california roll. I can't believe it stayed clean…lol. It was very casual. Then for our 10th anniversary, he let me choose and we took the original stone he chose and set it in the new ring. He offered a better stone, but I couldn't have it. He chose it and I wanted it with me.
I'm so excited for you and your family. I'll be praying for wonder, joys, and unity as you all plan.
What an honor to be able to go with your son to pick out "the ring". How exciting.
Can I share a secret? My daughter's boyfriend just asked my husband's permission for my her hand. EEEKKKK. Freak out!
My son asked his girl to marry him…it is a really nice story like you expressed so well.
I feel the same about my boy making this huge commitment but I have high hopes of undyiny love
Barbie — I am so excited for you!! I remember when my son asked his girls dad. I was out of town and I was sweating bullets for him. It was hard to believe he was that big of a man already. Congrats!! PS – I also can't imagine what it would be like being the parents getting asked. WHOA!!!
my son is 5 and my heart just pulled with your words. Great job, mama. He sounds like a wonderful young man. I was engaged at 19, and I was ready…but I look back now, and see my youth. :)