Dear Promiscuity,
You were empty and vain to prey on my vulnerability the way that you did. You really had me. You made me believe that giving myself away wasn’t a big deal.
While growing up nobody had ever taken the time to talk to me about purity. Nobody ever told me that the Creator of the universe made me and gave me a special gift to share with my husband one day. But you liked having that foothold.
You enjoyed knowing that I wanted to feel loved.
After giving my body away at the age of 18, I continued to put myself in situations where sex was just physical. Every time I allowed myself to lay with someone new, I didn’t realize how much of an impact it would have in years to come. After all, ‘everyone was doing it’. For the past six years, I have been trying to get you out of my mind.
Even though I’ve been married for 10+ years, I still think about you. I’m still impacted by you. I allowed you to rob my body the gift of purity. Just like the majority of our society does, I believed your lies. I hadn’t realized how much of an impact you had on my life until I learned about God’s love for me.
I was four years deep into my marriage when I accepted Christ as my Savior so up until that point, I wasn’t even aware that it mattered. But ever since, I keep playing your lies through my head. I’m embarrassed by my lack of confidence in my ‘old life’. I’m angry that I would put myself in those situations.
I’m ashamed that I have memories that will never go away.
I am sad that I was not able to give my husband 100% of me on our wedding day. It’s not fair. But I realize that I can’t change what has already happened. I can’t take back what you’ve already taken.
But there is hope. Your shame does not own me.
My regrets do not determine who I am.
My Savior has redeemed me and His light that shined upon my face six years ago will never fade away. I am a new creation. I have been renewed and there is hope for those who think they are hopeless. I am not the same girl that you started to control 18 years ago. The only One that controls me is the Holy Spirit living in me. And I am committed to sharing the value of purity with everyone that I can.
You do not own me and you will never own me again. I belong to Christ.
Someone living a life of TRUE love
Dear Anonymous: Your words stir my heart. The truth from someone who has been there and done that rings loud. I’m thankful you found your cleansing and true purity in Christ! May your words of wisdom stop other girls, young and old alike, in their tracks from flirting with the lies of the world.
Dear Reader: If you have encouraging words for Anonymous, please leave them below. This series began as 31 days of Anonymity, but as letter continue to come in I want to give you a voice. Read all the letter in the series here. If you have an anonymous letter you’d like to write you can send it to alenesnodgrass [at] gmail [dot] com.
I recently read the following message…
[ The Crown of Creation
God sets his own image on the earth. He creates a being like himself. He creates a son. The LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being. (Gen. 2:7)
It is nearing the end of the sixth day, the end of the Creator’s great labor, as Adam steps forth, the image of God, the triumph of his work. He alone is pronounced the son of God. Nothing in creation even comes close. Picture Michelangelo’s David. He is . . . magnificent. Truly, the masterpiece seems complete. And yet, the Master says that something is not good, not right. Something is missing . . . and that something is Eve.
The Lord God cast a deep slumber on the human, and he slept, and He took one of his ribs and closed over the flesh where it had been, and the Lord God built the rib He had taken from the human into a woman and He brought her to the human. (Gen. 2:21-23 Alter)
She is the crescendo, the final, astonishing work of God. Woman. In one last flourish creation comes to a finish not with Adam, but with Eve. She is the Master’s finishing touch. How we wish this were an illustrated book, and we could show you now some painting or sculpture that captures this, like the stunning Greek sculpture of the goddess Nike of Samothrace, the winged beauty, just alighting on the prow of a great ship, her beautiful form revealed through the thin veils that sweep around her. Eve is . . . breathtaking.
Given the way creation unfolds, how it builds to ever higher and higher works of art, can there be any doubt that Eve is the crown of creation? Not an afterthought. Not a nice addition like an ornament on a tree. She is God’s final touch, his pièce de résistance. She fills a place in the world nothing and no one else can fill.
An excerpt from Captivating ]
I was explaining to Anna that a man can not hear these words and fail to be stirred. It lays out and brings to light a message, a lie that men have bought into. A lie that the enemy and the world use to cheapen what God has done for man through woman. This lie is the foundation of the promiscuity in men written about in this post. I’ve shared this message with the men in my sphere of influence and God is unpacking a greater story through it. My prayer is that we begin to realign our hearts to God’s heart and realize the woman He has planned and purposed for us is indeed the crown that we wear in the adventure of fighting together for His Kingdom.
Dear Anonymous,
I was date-raped when I was 18. It changed my life. I became promiscuous because the rapist and Satan convinced me that I deserved it. I was already a Christian. After several months, I had a pregnancy scare. I fell to my knees and begged God for mercy. It turned out that I wasn’t pregnant. I made a covenant with God. He gave me a wonderful man as husband. I wish you the same joy that GOD gave me.
Where do I start? This post cries for the grace and mercy of God, and then He spreads it thick like apple butter on a hot biscuit! (So says the gal from the mountains of Virginia *smile*)
Dear Anonymous,
In the eyes of God, your promiscuity is no different that my bad attitude. Every single day we breathe in His new mercies and ask for His strength to face the challenges. Never forget that you are chosen and holy and dearly loved! Walk in obedience and press toward your calling. He wants you to live a life of joy, freedom and purpose!